WE’RE A LITTLE OVER AUGUST’S HALFWAY MARK ALREADY…is this a good thing or not?
Can we talk for a minute about how QUICKLY this summer flew by? Technically, it’s still l’été, but before long, some of you will be back on 3-hour long lectures, trying with all your might not to stab yourselves in the eye with sharpened pencils (if you happen to love the Big Institution and its teachings, you have my utmost admiration and respect). For others, this signals the final stretch of taking off work early on Fridays and extending weekends past Monday for whatever summer lovin’ has you a blast: cottaging, patio watching, last-minute getaways, Rebecca Black Friday karaoke singing and road tripping.
Speaking of the latter, the O Clan took a little day jaunt to my birth city of Montreal a little more than a couple of weeks back, which was perfect for moi as I slowly feel that my feet will soon cease to be in working order. Our wedding photographer and friend Marie-Michèle joined us for a picnic in Little Italy before we headed off downtown for what was to be back-to-school shopping for Jamal (i.e. the excuses I come up to satisfy my own selfish urges would have your mind blown).
Here’s how it went down for two “refuse-to-grow-up” parents, one “a-little t00-grown-up” teenager, a “can’t-wait-to-come-out” bun in the oven and a “stuck-with-these-fools” MTL friend.
7:30 a.m. | Cocorico! The rooster call that is my cell phone wakes me up from my slumber, though I suspect Little Mami has been on duty before the fact thanks to her incessant jabs to the ribs. August, in my book, you’re fully welcomed. Now, get this kid out already!?
8:00 a.m. | My morning routine is no-nonsense and must have me ready in 30 minutes or less because frankly, I don’t like wasting my God-given time on earth singing into a loofah in the shower. My momma cooks up the breakfast of champions for the entire family: eggs, French baguette, ham, fresh veggies and fruits, juice, coffee, the works! Timmies won’t erect a monument in my name anytime soon.
9:25 a.m. | Get the day’s essentials in the car: cooler, sunscreen, road snacks, camera, chargers, happy moods. I’m one stone throw away from breaking into song à la Julie Andrews, with cartoon birds flying all around me.With a 17-mminute late start, we are finally off!
12:00 p.m. | In Montreal already!? After driving 4.5 hours to Toronto and back for 8 years, I tend to forget how easy-breezy it is to get from OTT to MTL — straight line uncomplicated business (unless your foot gets too heavy on that pedal and Sûreté du Québec happens to be hiding away in the bushes like the Big Bad Wolf looking to stick one Ontario-licensed driver with a speeding ticket). Admit it: they hate us.
12:35 p.m. | Getting across the island from the Trans-Canada highway into the downtown core is like getting through a war zone: you’re constantly on edge and feel like a ticking time bomb every time someone cuts you off, doesn’t signal changing lanes, or gives you the stink eye for daring to drive a vehicle with a license plate that doesn’t spell JE ME SOUVIENS. I feel like screaming “Les Québécois, c’est juste des têtes de cochons! (Quebeckers are a bunch of stubborn folks!), but can anticipate my kid’s smart-a** comment to the effect of “Uh, Mom? Wouldn’t that make you one if you’re born a Quebecker too?” Let’s here it for the analogy of the Pot calling the Kettle black. Even in imaginary dialogues with the kid, I must concur “Touché, Jamal, tou-ché”. I save myself the humiliation.
12:50 p.m. | Parking, surprisingly, is easy to score in a city known for its narrow streets better fitting Barbie’s convertible than human-size vehicles. We’re here, sun shining, temps rising, appetites growing. This is how you do Montreal.
1:15 p.m. | We walk over to Dinette Triple Crown and soon after, Marie-Michèle appears in an oh-so-adorable casual tee, jean shorts and Chucks uniform, with a Raised by Wolves strap back hat over her short cropped do (she’s too cool for school). More and more people arrive and in the interim, I learn MM is a vegetarian (oops!), which may be problematic since the unassuming little gem, a Southern cuisine spot located in Little Italy, is known for its fried chicken and other grease-spoon fare.
1:30 p.m. | I’m salivating already and my eyes are the size of saucers. This place has garnered rave reviews from MTL’s top foodies. Little Mami sticks out her bum in her favorite cavity of my stomach, which is code for “Let’s do this, mama!” #PasLtempsDniaiser
1:40 p.m. | It’s our turn to order and I rattle off my list like an auctioneer: (3) Meat & Threes, with a combination of sides (mashed potatoes and gravy, creamy slaw, cornbread, biscuits, fried sweet potatoes) and let’s finish this off with the Mac ‘n’ Cheese (locals call it a “revelation”). From here on out, it’s a 30-minute wait for our picnic basket.
2:10 p.m. | I have to pause for a moment and observe the picnic basket Dinette Triple Crown hooks us up with: checkered tablecloth, dishware, cutlery, sauces aplenty and mason jars to wash down those pipes with water or summer’s quintessential refreshments of ice tea and lemonade. It’s a required IG moment, but instead, I’m savoring the basket’s content and snapping away with my mind’s eye.
2:20 p.m. | After being on the lookout for a vacant picnic table (mama can’t do the ground in her condition!), hubby scores us one. Unpacking the basket makes me giddy with anticipation. Everything smells like the best meal you’ll ever have in your life and I soon find out that the reality far exceeds the assumption. The chicken is so scrumptious that KFC should stand to go bankrupt (truthfully, they shouldn’t even be mentioned in the same breath nor sentence); DTC is just THAT.GOOD! The food is so plentiful that despite the four of us taking bite after bite of food in a bid to clear the contents of our basket, it remains steadfast like manna from the heavens. Leftover lunch for damn sure! #nocomplaints
2:50 p.m. | Although we’re feeling like Beluga whales the sea cannot contain, I think to myself that maybe we should end this on a sweet note by going to St-Laurent Blvd and getting La Cornetteria‘s specialty, the Cronetto, which supposedly has people singing heavenly hymns. That moment would most likely deserve a cheesy 80s track like “Take My Breath Away” by Berlin just to signify the epicness of all that is great in life, but it never materializes; we’re all too full.
2:55 p.m. | We part ways with MM, driving south to park near Des Pins. As we walk towards St-Laurent Blvd, we spot a little barbershop and the boys decide to have their hair shorten as the unforgiving blazing sun hits us overhead. We leave an hour and a half later, both of them looking fresh to death while I continue to look every bit like my sorry-a** self with mustard splatters on my blouse that have me looking a Basquiat portrait.
4:30 p.m. | Off downtown! Parking in these parts is a little trickier, but my little go-to saving grace is the all-day $7 parking at the Eaton Centre, which is both convenient and beyond affordable by MTL standards. Let the shopping games, from Underground City all the way to St. Catherine Street, begin!
6:30 p.m. | Two hours later, we withdraw from our retail pilgrimage EMPTY-HANDED (did that really happen?) and return to our car, feeling as though we’re not quite done with MTL yet. Where else can we head to? I’m thinking street performers, evening walkers, lively entertainment…Old Montreal? The area never disappoints with its Parisian-themed cobble-stoned streets. I may call Ontario home, but I consider myself quite a blessed girl to have been born in this city filled with French charm and history. But alas, I can feel the achiness of my feet from the constant walking turning me into a party pooper. Time to retire you, Montreal, except something tells me we’ll see each other again…in another year. Bye bye, la’w! (as my fellow Montrealers would say).
Je me souviens très bien de nos moments passés ensemble et les chérirai longtemps (I remember well our times spent together and will cherish them for a long time).
Photo credit: C. ‘WhoIsArlette’ and W. ‘Only1O’ Orellana
I’ve been waiting for it: the sibling jealousy that can arise from any kid who’s used to being the only child and who suddenly must contend with the thought and impending arrival of another human being…except, my only kid is surprisingly quite excited to be welcoming a sibling in spite of a significant age gap. Although Jamal is now a teenager and slowly coming unto his own, I still regard him as the little boy who used to raise his arms to me with a look of complete dependency. I still see the joyous little tyke who would trip, see a streak of blood trickle down his leg and instead of crying, would get back up and keep running without a care in the world. He’s my first and if there ever was evidence of a boy being a proud son, let alone a momma’s boy and unapologetic about it, mine certainly takes the cake!?
I wonder to myself how I’ll manage to love both of my children in equal measure without making neither one of them feel neglected. I feel a bit of pity for Jamal as he’s been witnessing our families and friends fussing over this little person who is yet to be born. I try to put myself in his shoes and think of the impact this may have on him, whether he still feels he matters to me, to his stepdad, to his grandparents, to his uncles and aunts, both biological and honorary. When my heart suffered its worst heartbreak a long time ago, his presence and his hugs were enough to give me the push to go forward when I wasn’t sure I had anything left in me to keep going or fight for. There hasn’t been a day that’s gone by without him telling me “Mom, I love you” several times with the purest spill of the heart. I’m in awe of this kid: I don’t know why I was entrusted his care by the Most High, but I believe that it was more for my own benefit than it ever was for his. He saved me from…me.
I enjoy our talks, our walks; his joie de vivre; his maturity, which he balances perfectly with the realities of being a teenage boy while still living out his don’t-want-to-grow-up “Peter Pan” fantasies that keep him amazed by the little things. I let it soak in, try to learn from his way of looking at life when I get manic inside and feel like a complete failure. Even if I waited a long time for a daughter, I never want to make my son feel like he’s any less wanted, regardless of the circumstances from which he was born. I wasn’t ready then for motherhood, but I did what I felt in my heart was closest to my convictions, and the end result turned out to be one that broadened my understanding of what true love is.
He’s my first born, my buddy, an extension of me and my mini-BIG me and now, he’ll soon be a big brother. Thankfully, he doesn’t hang with the Green-eyed monster and rather, looks at what is on the way as another open door to letting love flow from his heart. Baby S is blessed to have someone openly advocating her well-being, protection and happiness the way only a big brother would.
Whoever Jamal ends up with later on in life (ratchet ‘hood rats need not apply — every last one will get screened!), I hope she can see him as I see him: with a heart for the women around him, with a gentleness and generosity that I have yet to witness in other young men his age, and with a drive to better himself in every way while remaining close to the lessons in humility my husband and I try every day to impart.
This is who we were then and this is who we’ll continue to be well into the last days of our lives. This post may be called Sunday/Son Day and come a day after the fact, but it is no less us being on our merry mother and son way.
Photo credit: C. ‘WhoIsArlette’ Orellana
Clash and Crash is the best way to sum up my style as of late: on the one hand, I’m all about comfort (for obvious reasons!), but on the other, I try to retain that sense of individuality that would seem impractical to many in my shoes, almost schizophrenic in nature.
Beetlejuice meets Willy Wonka: two child-like worlds colliding, one rooted in twisted fantasy while the other appeals to innocent wonder. Except, we grown and I’m leaving the magical incantations and hard-learned factory lessons out of the equation. I dress as I please for the one and only earthly body I’ll ever get.
To dress yourself during pregnancy and retain parts of yourself, you may have to look the other way if your style of dress happens to be a little “unusual” by society’s standards. I’ve gotten my fair share of odd looks in the last few months for choosing to outfit myself in slouchy pleather pants as opposed to lazy sweat pants, graphic tees as opposed to monochromatic tunics, and high heels as opposed to sneakers. I’ve been singled out (out loud!) by a bus rider for DARING to wear a form-fitting dress that hit 10 inches above the knee (oh, l’horreur! Get Tim Gunn on the phone tout de suite!). I’m very outspoken naturally and couldn’t care less about others’ opinions of me in the matters of dress codes (especially if the judging jury could easily pass as extras on the set of Weekend at Bernie’s) but I’ve found myself growing a little apprehensive with each stare, as if I WASN’T allowed to dictate my place in the world by what makes me feel good, at a time when my body is foreign and unrecognizable to myself and needs nurturing much more than judgment.
When has pregnancy, one of life’s greatest gifts, become something to shun as dirty or inappropriate if it is not concealed under prudish attire?
At a time when I should be walking proudly, bearing the energy and beauty of my blessing, I’ve been made to feel like I should not “advertise” the evidence of my joy in ways that suggest out-of-the-box self-expression, and this has both startled and saddened me. I began second-guessing my own personal choices, telling myself that perhaps I’d be better off jumping aboard the peasant dress, flats, ponytail and bare minimum face look. Comfortable? Very. Remarkable? No. If blending in was ever what I set out to do with my look, my thoughts, my words and whatever else you may think of, there would no purpose for this blog, for opinions, for influence and for growth. Real life, for me, began the day I found my voice. Hence, the apprehension has no business setting shop in this life that waves the “No Apologies” flag.
The Sunday that I set off to explore Ottawa for fun in one of my black, body-hugging halter dresses, I was stopped by a woman in her early forties who saw me walking by as she was having tea on a patio with her mother. She ran after me and this was our exchange:
HER: “Excuse me?”
HER: “I’m sorry. I had to come running after you to let you know that my mother and I just saw you walking by and that we love seeing a pregnant woman showing off her pregnancy curves. You look great!”
ME: “Are you serious? You have no clue how much this means to me. People haven’t been too kind with their stares and comments.”
HER: “Really? You have a glow! You know where the judgment stems from? My mom told me once that in her time, a woman was meant to cover evidence of her pregnancy because if she didn’t, it was synonymous with her doing the deed. But times have changed! So, don’t let people’s looks get to you. You look amazing!”
ME: “Thank you for coming over. This has made my day and reminds me that I should stick to my guns. Have a great day!”
To that lady, thank you: not because you’ve given me a green light to resist convention, but because you’ve reminded me that the more convinced I am of my inner light, the easier it is to let it shine bright into the world.
Photo Credit: W. ‘Only1O’ Orellana
“Yeah. I always carry this much s*&t into my bag; you never know when you may have to jam.” – Allison “The basket case” Reynolds, The Breakfast Club
As an aspiring writer (and one who hopes to become a published author some day), I try to find ways to connect my thoughts and emotions to a topic that 1) interests me; 2) is relevant to my readers; 3) allows me to flex my thinking and prose; and 4) is presented in a much different (if not unusual) manner than what the masses produce. I’m in no way the next Margaret Atwood or Alice Munro and would much rather be a first rate version of myself than the 1,000,000th version of someone else; but thankfully, judging by the enthusiasm I’ve garnered through comments, retweets, personal messages and the likes in the last year, I believe I’ve managed to successfully achieve that mandate without pulling teeth. I take pride in writing FOR you and engaging WITH you.
However, I’d be a hypocrite if I didn’t admit to feeling inspired and tickled pink by some of the content fashion and lifestyle bloggers put out, because a lot of it is darn right fun, light and beautiful! Sometimes, part of the fun is joining in on the fun and contributing your take to the conversation. Lately, I’ve been thinking that I’d like to spill…the contents of my bag à la Allison Reynolds (I’ll let Miss “basket case” hold on to the inevitable fate of becoming a shopping bag lady that sits in alleyways, talks to buildings and wears men’s shoes).
Many men are confused by women’s need to carry an elaborate “accoutrement” on their arm every day, and depending on which end of the spectrum they happen to stand on, they may be as perplexed as The Devil Wears Prada‘s Nate (“Why do women need so many bags?…You have one, you put all your junk in it, and that’t it! You’re done!”) or as empathetic as his buddy Doug (“Fashion is not about utility. An accessory is merely a piece of iconography used to express individual identity”). Here, here, Doug! Couldn’t have said it any better…
So, with that being said, here are the every day essentials that go into my sturdy-and-beginning-to-fade Aldo ‘Folortan’ trapeze studded handbag, last year’s birthday gift from the hubs that continues to score me compliments to this day. Eventually, I hope to graduate to some more grown-up fare — you know, a little something that rivals rent money and which preferably, comes in the most divine buttery leather. Brands, if you have quick reflexes, this is your cue to #showmetheswag!
1. KEYS | Pretty self-explanatory, non? I have multiple sets and don’t quite know why I have yet to unite them on a single key chain. If I’m ever stranded out of the house, I can always attempt a break-in, but then again, this would be the fastest way to assisted suicide and to having my mug shot appear on the 6 0′clock evening news, with neighbors taking turns putting me on blast à la Antoine Dodson (“You’re so dumb, you are really dumb…for real!).
2. GOOGLE NEXUS PHONE | The few times I’ve left my cell phone at home, the feeling has likened itself to the Phantom limb phenomenon — I know a cell phone will never come CLOSE to replacing a real organ, but you catch my drift (#wedependent). Just like 99.9% of the living and breathing population, my device serves as my alarm clock, my office-on-the-go, my connection to the world, my distraction, my sync pad, my personal DJ, my…I’ll stop now.
3. KOBO READER | This is the earliest and most basic version of the device, but it works like a charm and keeps me enthralled in the fiction and biographies of movers and shakers. My current read? The Glitter Plan by Pamela Skaist-Levy and Gela Nash Taylor, the founders of fashion brand Juicy Couture. It’s a light, fun and insightful summer read for the girl who wants to achieve her dreams of striking out on her own. If case you didn’t get the memo, being a #GirlBoss is all the rage, dawlin’! (that’s a shameless plug for Sophia Amoruso’s book, which is also an eye-opener).
4. SWAROVSKI CRYSTAL PEN | This was a gift from my BFF, Roseline, for my 34th birthday. It’s such a striking pen that once, while attending a prenatal class, I took it out of my purse to fill out some paperwork and the girl sitting next to us almost had a convulsion at the sight of it (I thought she was going to deliver her baby right there and then). It’s slick and pretty, and as my bestie said, fit for a writer. Ah!
5. iPOD NANO | I nicknamed her “Lacey” for reasons unknown. It was a gift from the hubs when we were dating. He had it engraved on the back with Pearls & Times Events, which was my event planning company at the time. Lacey has choked a few times over the years (and even went into cardiac arrest for several months), but she’s since come to. She holds sentimental value and has been making up for all the past drama by entertaining me loud and clear ever since. Pfft! Picky little technology…
6. BUSINESS CARDS | Mine are as plain as they come, but they provide all the info one needs at a glance. The company that does them delivers quickly and at an affordable price. Plus, I die of happiness every time I look at that “WhoIsArlette” typeface that’s become synonymous with my online brand.
7. LIPGLOSS | I scored this one at the Sparks Sessions Conference in Toronto last November and man, it’s the best damn thing since sliced bread. It’s hydrating, goes on smoothly and projects the most beautiful sheen. This one, Almay’s ‘Just Plum Good’, was chosen for me by Jacquie Hutchinson, Revlon Canada’s National Product Trainer and makeup artist. I call her aunt Jacquie because she’s so laid back and accessible despite her tremendous success.
8. PRESTO CARD | The genius behind this public transit card is that whether you’re in Ottawa or Toronto, it works! (it even covers the Greater Hamilton Area). I’ve commuted aboard the “people’s limo” all my life and love the convenience of public transit: it allows me time to read, listen to music, draft my next ideas, nap or people watch.
9. ST. IVES HAND LOTION | My ultimate pet-peeve is dry hands. I lather lotion on mine several times a day and have been told that their unwrinkled appearance tricks people into thinking I’m younger than I am (is that a back-handed compliment or…?). Either way, I patrol the streets for ashy hands and pray silently for the guilty.
10. HAIR ELASTICS | I fight with my hair on a near daily basis; it just has a mind of its own. Black ouchless hair elastics are what allow me to thread the careful divide between the unruly, limp and annoying and the presentable and pulled together. I never want to be the girl who looks like “Who Shot John?”, so oftentimes, I keep one around my wrist and a few extras in my bag.
11. SUNGLASSES | No matter the season, these eyes need their cover. I don’t overthink it and rotate a few pairs based on my outfit and mood. I always purchase cheap ones from fast fashion brands like H&M and F21 because I tend to break or lose them easily. Buying a designer pair that could later be destroyed, lost (or worse!) stolen would send me into septic shock, so I stay in my lane.
12. CHINESE COOKIE FORTUNE | While out to a late Thai lunch with my cousin, his fiancée and their moms last summer as we were planning said cousin’s wedding, we were given the standard parting gift: the fortune cookie. Since I was seated at the end of the table, my cousin, who picked one for himself, noticed I didn’t have any and gave me his before grabbing another one. Turns out the one he “passed” along to me had this happy and serendipitous message: “You will become an accomplished writer 3 6 9 11 42 48″. I don’t know what the numbers stand for; I don’t even believe in Chinese astrology. But I do believe that some things are meant to be and well, if you know anything about me, the rest of what’s to come will be history…
There you have it! Other things that often find their way in my bag as well: a few magazines, a notebook, gum, a few colored pens and my passport (because, well…you never know when you may have to jam!).
Tell me: what’s in YOUR bag?
Photo credit: C. ‘WhoIsArlette’ and W. ‘Only1O’ Orellana
…but when a dapper and sweet-voiced Tennessee-born gentleman, with hypnotic music and killer moves to boot, happens to stop by your city for a night and a friend invites you along to see him do his thang, you must:
1) Dig into your well of patience to get you through the work day and keep yourself from bursting like a Cinco de Mayo piñata;
2) Spend your entire afternoon revisiting his discography and refreshing your memory’s jukebox so that you don’t look like a complete aberrant fool during sing-alongs;
3) Remind yourself 1,000,000 times that his sexy love anthems, no matter how convincing they sound when he croons and smirks directly into the camera, are really not about you.
Oh, to hell with it! I love me some JT like a fat kid loves cake and tonight, I’m going to Take Back The Night.
#FollowMe via Twitter and Instagram at @WhoIsArlette because my own idiotic, happy face will become a hashtagged occurrence of its own.
Now, get Jimmy Fallon on via teleconference — he’s needed for some hashtagging sign language.
I looked down at my watch: 11:08 a.m. I sighed deeply and picked a piece of thread unraveling from my alleged “in pristine condition” vintage blazer before sighing again. Although we were only eight minutes behind schedule, I seethed with impatience as we waited for the most-buzzed about exhibition tour in town to begin. My muscles started to grow numb from foreboding — nothing had taken place yet for me to assume that some impending doom was upon us, but nonetheless, the feeling clang on like an icky rash. Every few minutes, newcomers to the group would arrive at once, marching dutifully like ants in a single file before stopping abruptly at the edge of our broken circle. The creases on their faces gave away their palpable excitement as they spoke animatedly amongst themselves before letting their childish laughs rip through the air. Finally, our guide appeared seemingly out of nowhere and proceeded to commend our attention by waving a gaunt and veiny hand to rally the troops.
“Good day and welcome to the Starving Artist Exhibit!” he shouted enthusiastically, revealing scraggly, yellowing teeth under a thick mustache. “The International Museum of Hopeful Creatives is thrilled to be the first to host this never-before-seen, world-class exhibition about the exhilarating and uncertain world of the struggling artist. Since its inauguration 6 days ago, the exhibit has had an unprecedented number of visitors, breaking early attendance record predictions of 10,000 guests. I’m happy to report that we will be reaching the 1,000,000-visitor mark with you all today! Aren’t you lucky to be part of the one in a million group to mark this milestone?”
The group erupted into cheers, clapping boisterously. The guide ran his hand on the back of his close-cropped hair, adjusting his thick-rimmed glasses over his nose and licking his lips suggestively as he looked in the direction of a pretty young brunette who bore all the winning elements of a made-for-the-runway model. An elderly woman standing nearby for whom the innuendo didn’t go unnoticed, wrinkled her nose in disgust.
“Before we go any further, please step this way and pick up the paddle that represents your vocation and follow me!” he continued, leading the way into an area where light became increasingly sparse. I looked down at the rows of wooden paddles, my eyes glazing over the options:
Photographer…Musician…Graphic Designer…Stylist…Painter…Makeup Artist…Performer…Videographer…
I came to a complete stop as the Writer paddle came into full view. It definitely mirrored my reality the closest, but didn’t sum up entirely the scope of my dreams. My mind argued against the paddle’s one-liner headline, which fell short of telling the real story of the struggles I faced on a daily basis as an aspiring writer. Accustomed to regularly receiving generic “Hi There!” pitches from PR companies and brands, it didn’t take me long to realize that I was perceived as another “Eager Beaver” puppet whose strings these industry giants felt they could pull with promises of free swag and VIP tickets in exchange for free marketing write-ups. I grabbed the paddle and twirled it in my hand, following the group closely behind.
“The exhibit has been designed to showcase several types of creatives, taking you through the realities of their dreams and struggles based on a number of factors such as passion, self-promotion, personal marketing and branding, ferocious competition, creative license, high-demand client expectations and so on,” noted our tour guide. “Feel free to peruse the massive display at your leisure and ask me any question you may have,” he added noncommittally before disappearing behind a wall.
As I approached the 12-ft long window display, I was taken aback by the House of Wax-like figures who stared back at us blankly as if their souls had been stolen in some cannibalistic ritual meant to exterminate them. One of them appeared to be struggling under the weight of multiple bags, overpowered by Transformer-size equipment; another stood amongst several racks of high-price gowns and boxes of shoes, while an impeccably dressed figure stood nearby looking condescending and requesting “More options!”. As I walked by each figure, I read the descriptive over each one silently:
The Shoot-Free-for-Exposure Photographer…The Barter-for-Beats Producer…The Gimme-More-for-Less Graphic Designer…The Copy-My-Genius Painter…The Run-Around-Town Slaving Stylist…The Put-a-Price-on-My-Art Makeup Artist…The Nickel-and-Dime-Me Performer…The Let-Me-See-Quality Videographer…
A burly man with a balding head dressed in what seemed to be his return-from-the cottage getup, spoke up to one in particular.
“These mannequins are creepy,” he said. “They almost look life-like!?” he observed. “These descriptions seem so accurate, but are so sad,” he continued. “It’s almost as if these people have lost that sparkle in their eye because no one takes their craft seriously. They look distressed, worn-out…”
“…almost as if they’ve been doing this forever and are now depleted from trying to prove their worth and feeling like they’re getting nowhere” suggested a lithe redhead, who knelt closer to the window before tapping its glass with her finger.
“This one looks like she hasn’t slept in days,” said a couple as they pointed out another target. A few of us gathered around them and let out groans of agreement. I felt sucker-punched: the figure sat among a sea of rumpled sheets, looking focused on what could be construed as another rewrite. I considered the scenario before me: how many hours had she put in already in drafting what she hoped would be read, shared and celebrated? Was she doing it because she had been contracted to do so or because she hoped to be in the near future? Was she being promised her own bylines and hence, pouring all of her heart and soul into those lines, hoping to be found worthy of an opportunity? Would her work go on to live gloriously, or vanish unrewarded, taking her along with it?
We all stood in silence, each one of us gazing in the direction of the objects of our afflictions.
The elderly woman from earlier spoke quietly: “At this rate, they should have just slapped ‘Will work for food!’ above the entire display because that’s essentially what each one of these represented figures want — to share their craft with the world while ensuring their likelihood. We’re first driven by the feeling of contributing something worthwhile to the world. Showing skill, talent, innovation and creativity…that’s one thing; but nurturing those traits is quite another!? This is why many fail and give up when recognition is slow to come…Where do we draw the line? When do we agree to keep going out of love and when is it time to demand respect for our time, efforts and work? Hmmm, food for thought, I guess…” she concluded with a gentle smile, winking my way. I smiled understandably.
I looked down at my watch: an entire hour had gone by in the blank of an eye. I looked around the room at the other attendees — silence weighed heavily over the room, leaving only racing thoughts to speak louder than words and interrogations ever could. The awkwardness was suddenly broken by the tiny voice of the pretty brunette.
“How come there’s no figure representing a model?” she asked inquisitively. We all turned to look at her before looking back at the window display. Our guide emerged from his hidden corner, his clothes slightly wrinkled.
“Oh, the committee was slow to introduce this one to the gallery, but it’s already in the works.”
“What will the figure be called?” asked a teenage Asian boy without raising his eyes from his Instagram feed.
“The Make-Me-Famous-Now Model” replied the guide. “Well, what do you know, the tour is already over. Thank you all for visiting the Starving Artist Exhibit. Please do not forget to return your paddles before leaving. Hope you enjoyed yourselves. Have a wonderful day!”
He turned to the young pretty brunette and whispered: “I can quickly show you the model figure you inquired about, if you want?” he offered, smiling brightly and extending his hand to her. She took it without hesitation and followed him.
“Thanks for the tour, Mister…?”
“You can just call me Terry…”
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The man who is too – shall we say – lazy to care about his appearance is described by Clueless protagonist Cher Horowitz in an unflattering voice-over monologue as follows:
“So okay, I don’t want to be a traitor to my generation and all, but I don’t get how guys dress today. I mean, come on, it looks like they just fell out of bed and put on some baggy pants and take their greasy hair – eww! – and cover it up with a backwards cap and like, we’re expected to swoon? I don’t think so!”
I never quite understood why Miss Horowitz was given a paltry C in debate class — her assessment of the high school male population, among other things, was not entirely devoid of logic then and certainly isn’t irrelevant in our fashion-obsessed society today, whether subjects are at the junior level or upper echelons of education. Judging by the growing class of well-dressed
superheroes men all around us today, the obvious may have hit some of us over the head a bit later than our fictitious high school BFF, but remains no less a reality that we now dissect with the same pomp and circumstance that we devote to our own outfits and the study of seasonal trends and collections.
What can be said of the Davids, Ryans and Kanyes of this world? Are we staring down the trifecta of swagger, swaggerlicious and swaggerific? The penchant women have for men who possess the credo on good style could fill an entire style tome; starlets are no longer the only ones reaping the marks of our criticism: we speak of Gucci, Armani and Dolce & Gabbana suits with the same candor used to debate ‘Who Wore It Best?’ and ‘This or That’ showdowns — a man’s look either has us singing his praises or singing “I don’t want no scrub; a scrub is a guy that can’t get no love from me…”
I, myself, am loca for men who look the part, walk with confidence and incite stares and drool from pretty ladies and supermarket grannies alike. I’m happily married but am certainly not dead, and when a fella happens to “represent”, I pray internally that a national holiday will be inaugurated in his honor, complete with a megawatt parade that’ll have him flanked by the Me(a)gans (as in Fox and Good). High-end designer brands have launched many a Hollywood bloke into the style stratosphere, but this fact still begs a couple of questions:
Is the league of extraordinary gentlemen reserved strictly to those with deep pockets? And if not, where can everyday civilians with more “modest means” turn to for similar craftsmanship and quality at a fraction of the cost without having to turn to malls’ generic destinations?
Indochino, the leader in custom online menswear (and a proudly Canadian brand!), has felt the pulse of the industry and filled a void in these matters, commending an impressive presence both at home and abroad. With the retailer’s Traveling Tailor pop-up shop now in the nation’s capital until July 6th, Ottawans can experience the careful attention to detail that is synonymous with the brand’s mission to provide “custom suits for men of action who do not have a lot of spare time”. Free consultations, measurements and the creation of a personalized
armor suit take less time to conceptualize than one’s drive home from downtown to the suburbs in rush hour (i.e. saving adrenaline-pumped soccer fans time for those can’t-miss-’em FIFA matches). Priorities in check for all!
Come along as Indochino Retail Operations Manager Erin Clark offers her take on custom-made suits as the hallmark of being a gentlemen, cites the new class of style influencers and suggests ways of styling your new suit for different occasions.
Arlette: This Traveling Tailor pop-up shop idea is genius! As you may have heard, Ottawa is known as Government City and if there ever was a place that required proper suiting, it certainly is our fair city!? However, there’s this misconception that dressing impeccably either requires a fortune or is impossible to achieve because the few known stores who cater to men are known for taking the ‘one-size-fits-all’ approach. How does an Indochino custom-made suit break the mold?
Indochino: In a lot of ways! Where we’re breaking the mold is giving every guy the opportunity to be able to get dressed well in a suit that fits; something that’s affordable for every guy, accessible for every guy and it’s really made for them. So not only is the fit made for them, but they get to choose all the customizations on the suit to the way they want it, depending on the lining, the buttons, how they want the pockets…It’s all up to them.
Arlette: We’ve been blessed with many examples of well-dressed men in entertainment, music and fashion: there is a certain aura and confidence that these men exude when they’re dressed to the nines (I think of the Robert Redfords, Colin Firths and Sean Combs of this world). Are we witnessing a new class of style influencers that has men taking note? Any notable mentions?
Indochino: There’s a lot of guys with great classic style, going back to Steve McQueen, but there’s also the more modern look like Ryan Gosling and Ryan Reynolds…I think the suit is all about confidence. What we’re seeing more and more of is print, color, three-piece suits, double-breasted suits. A suit is all still the same traditional elements, but what we’re doing is the modern element fit. So, all of these things have been around for a long time; it’s just a matter of making them with that modern fit from then into the now.
Arlette: Several men in my entourage have admitted to never owning a suit; they rent from their local rental stores for weddings, galas and the likes, but shy away from making the investment for multiple reasons. Two of the reasons I’ve often heard are that 1) they can’t think of enough occasions that would warrant the purchase of a suit and 2) they’re not sure how to make their suits versatile. What is the Indochino way of solving these conundrums?
Indochino: The way to make a suit versatile is to pick a color that you can do all seasons, that you can do as a business suit if you have the need for that, or that you can bring into evening going out for cocktails, or that you can wear something formal to a wedding. A three-piece suit is going to give you the most versatility as well because they have the option to take the jacket off, be just in the vest; they can roll up the sleeves, have a little bit less fabric, and we can do fabric all the way around the vest so that they still got that nice, clean look, and they can break up the vest and wear it with different pants. The jacket, as well, is really easy to break up and wear with denim and oxfords for the weekend, for a great weekend look.
Arlette: Indochino currently has a partnership going with United Way Ottawa which aims to donate a suit to a man in need for every 50 suits sold during the TT pop-up shop — I love when fashion and philanthropy come in perfect harmony! Why United Way Ottawa and how do you foresee this partnership impacting the men in need?
Robin Rowley, Marketing Director: We chose United Way because when we were in Ottawa in 2012, two of our biggest advocates in the market were existing customers who happen to work for United Way. When we decided to come back to Ottawa, we wanted to do something with them as we supported the community.
Want to get the star Indochino treatment? Appointments are being booked faster than you can say Mr. Pitt 5x times in a row, so don’t delay! Find the appointment schedule here and get thee to the Chambers Building at 54 Elgin St. to be transformed. And please, for pretty ladies and supermarket grannies’ sake, show us your swag using hashtag #SuitUpOttawa.
A huge thank you goes out to Robin Rowley, Marketing Director of Indochino, for the invitation to check out the pop-up store and to Erin Clark for giving me the lowdown on all things Indochino.
I heard there may be another installment of the Ocean 11 franchise…Care to stand in for Clooney and Co.? You sure look like you could…
Photo Credit: Wil ‘Only1O’ & Cindy ‘WhoIsArlette’ Orellana
Shot by yours truly last Sunday. A good friend reminded me not too long ago that I was that girl in high school who carried her Fujifilm camera like a third arm, shot everyone around the halls and on school grounds and spent every spare minute of her free periods in the dark room. Some hobbies are reborn when you least expect it; others are reignited when you happen to marry a fine and talented photographer whose work inspires you to get back to the basics; and some resurface just because some days you’re feeling restless, are in much need of some vitamin D and just want to connect with the world any way you can…
Summer is pretty much here, folks: if the several delightful days we’ve had lately are any indication, we can safely go ahead and intone this little joie de vivre piece, cheerfully tapping along in our revived mules and platforms and burning the what-were-they-thinking Madea-style garbs in our fashionably-conscious pit. I, for one, have been embodying the life of a nomad by spending as much time as humanly possible outdoors, despite the discomfort that accompanies increasingly swollen feet and a protruding belly. What can I say? The memory of this past ratched winter left me so cold (no pun intended) that I cursed its grey days into another planetary dimension and figured that the only plausible karmic solution to dealing with the trauma would be to roast outside like a sweltering pig at a Greek festival. Of course, sun protection prevails, so don’t go telling your momma that Arlette encouraged you to take a spin on the Skin Cancer Ferris wheel – you grown, so por favor, act like it!?
Now, on to the business of what makes me happiest every summer without fail: music festivals! I come from a musical family myself, but gave up the art when I was in high school. I don’t quite know why: I used to sing, I used to write songs and I used to play piano, but somehow, it all got lost in the frenzy of Alanis Morissette teenage angst, parental expectations and boys. Now, as an adult, I look back on those days with bittersweet melancholy, feeling like I may have missed out on a calling as a… — oh! I don’t know –…light-skinned, piano-playin’ prodigy who racks up hit after hit (naaaah, boo, just kidding! There could only be one of her!?).
All jokes aside, it seems Canada is fully on par with its southern cousin and rolling out the red carpet on even MORE festivals to satiate our appetites. The usual suspects are showing their stripes by bringing in the big guns of classic bands and today’s hit makers (RBC Royal Bank Bluesfest, Osheaga, Montreal Jazz Fest…) while the newest kids on the block are appealing to the indie-loving crowd (NXNE, FieldTrip, TIME…). Last year, Osheaga had me dizzy with its honest-to-goodness eclectic lineup, while Bluesfest had Ottawa roaring along with the bands of our collective teenage dreams. I would love to partake in the milestone celebrations of a few of them this year, but am faced with that eminent cankles-and-elephants pudding by the end of August, which would greatly restrict my capacity to be out and about like the cool kids (in other words: the cut-off outdoor playtime for this chick is July). However, should I find myself so lucky to sit in the media or VIP section of one particular concert to take in la musica comfortably, I’d leave my greed at the door and opt for the ONE act that has kept me humming along during the colder months and which I suspect could prep me with Energizer Bunny strength for delivery come fall.
THE FEEL-GOOD BAND: ST. LUCIA
Where: TIME Festival – Garrison Common | Toronto | Saturday, July 19, 2014
Additional Notes: the band will also be playing the Osheaga festival in Montreal on Saturday, August 2, 2014
The deets: I’ve been OBSESSED with St. Lucia ever since my ears were wiggled by their hit ‘Elevate’ on Songza’s Blogged 50 playlist. What is it about their sound that brings out the pearly whites faster than a Colgate commercial? The elements: 80′s Lionel Ritchie-esque happiness meet cool Depeche Mode vibe + repeat every lyric prose + make-you-drop-everything synthpop beats make this so-awesome-it-hurts band my sole music craving of the summer.
It’s another Manic Monday, but you may just have found the cure to your stuck-in-a-cubicle woes…
Photo credit: popcultureaddict.com
If we’re going to talk about the obvious, we certainly couldn’t do so without bringing up the “hashtagged” appellations of what “dressing up, feeling good and showing off” has done to our world. I’ve only eased up on the whole concept of selfies in the last several months and somehow still feel sick to my stomach when I resort to the collective madness. What is it about the genre that has me wincing, yet intrigues me in equal measure? On the one hand, there is our need to be noticed (and rarely in a self-deprecating manner), which has me believing that we’ve either arrived to this rare place of self-confidence and acceptance or that we’ve become completely self-absorbed creatures. Then, there’s the lack of appropriate balance: I’m not shy to admit that I’ve unfollowed a young lady who considers me a big sister just because my tolerance level for her repeated head shots/duck faces left me wishing I was unfollowed and unfriended like the worst of stalkers (whether she’s noticed that I’ve vanished from her follow list remains unbeknownst to me). My question is this:
Where do we draw the line between harmless fun and oversharing?
Every generation talks of its successor in that berating manner suggesting that theirs was far less self-involved and the cycle goes on and on. Have we reached the Exodus of making our lives too public? I’m in no way an expert Instagrammer with a following in the hundreds of thousands and although this isn’t intentional, but I also can’t state it to be the contrary…
My reasons for this are as follows:
1) I personally care more about posting “organically” (when it comes to my personal life) or intently (when it comes to my work) — launching a “Like” campaign is the least of my concerns. Things that make me happy and serve as pleasant memories or personal interests are what I care to look back on with fondness rather than cringe worthiness.
2) I cannot, in good conscience, resort to the sort of mindless posting many people partake in — the kind where EVERY.SINGLE.MOMENT of their day is shared, whether it looks appealing or not. I’m a strong believer that there’s a time and place for everything, and bombarding people with the most mundane of every day activities is as ineffective a tactic as trying to hold your breath under water indefinitely. I admire those IG accounts that give me the element of whimsy and surprise and which keep me tuned in rather than tuned out!
3) I find Instagramming to be somewhat of an art (albeit one for the digital age!) that should be pursued with a purpose. Is it meant to inspire? Make others laugh? Share one’s dreams and life’s work? Or simply kill time? I think those who have succeeded in gaining a commendable presence have done so because their IG personality is rooted in one of those specific goals. Finding your niche and crafting your place online should first align with your own values and secondly, engage your audience. People who excel in the matter? @parisinfourmonths, @tmagazine, @brooklynblonde, @thecoveteur, @moderosa, @streetetiquette. If you’re crushing on some particular IG accounts, do feel free to share them in the comments.
One of the things bringing me lots of joy lately is knowing that life is taking me into the direction of my dreams and launching the motherhood 2.0 chapter. The pictures enclosed represent my version of what it is to share my world with others, to inspire confidence in those moments where we’ve wished for something badly and finally seen it come to fruition and to hold on to that particular place in time where I felt my happiest (let’s be real, after a first trimester that was the pits, right now feels like walking on sunshine!?).
To my little mami: you’re so loved. Capturing the essence of my joy is my way of honoring you — your seal of approval far outweighs a million likes;)